A profile on Japan’s with dating app shows 800 likes. That tells you the profile drew plenty of attention. To learn whether the person is interested in you, watch what happens after the match: questions, plans and follow-through.
It is tempting to play detective before you have even exchanged a message. But a crowded inbox is not a psychological evaluation. First find out what the counter actually measures.
What does the 800-like counter actually track?
On Japan's dating app with, received likes are not necessarily a lifetime total. The company says it removes old received likes periodically so long-time users don't gain an automatic visibility advantage. The help page doesn't state the exact interval.
Think of 800 as a snapshot of early interest, not a dating résumé. It records taps on a profile; a real conversation and an actual date happen further down the line.
with defines a like as a first approach to a profile that catches your interest. A match happens only when the recipient taps “thank you.” The app grants outgoing likes under membership-specific rules and also lets users obtain more with points. That makes the 800 a count of initial approaches, not 800 agreed dates.
with also says one account cannot like the same person over and over. So this is not one superfan tapping the button 800 times. It is a striking amount of attention, but the counter still cannot tell you who will make time for a date.
Is 800 likes a lot on with?
In a 2025 IBJ Match Lab article, the writer explicitly describes the figures as their own independent research: roughly 30–70 likes for men and 150–200 for women on with. Without a stated sample size or detailed method, these are informal benchmarks, not verified averages across all users. Even against those rough benchmarks, 800 is strikingly high. Popular? Quite possibly. Picky? The number alone cannot tell you.
Receiving likes and turning down dates are different actions
Here's where an interesting study gets turned into a bad diagnosis. In three online-dating studies, Pronk and Denissen found that people browsing one candidate after another became less likely to accept later profiles—about a 27% average drop from the first option to the last. The experiments did not test whether people receiving 800 likes were excessively picky. Those are two different actions, not interchangeable statistics.
The participants were 18–30. The pattern was more consistent for women, while findings for men varied across the three studies. The 27% is an average in those tasks, not a rule for every dater.
There is another wrinkle. A 2024 survey of 804 Greek-speaking participants associated having more perceived romantic options with being less likely to be single; yet more options also correlated with feeling overwhelmed by choice. That survey cannot tell you why any particular user on a Japanese app has 800 likes, and correlation isn't a personality test.
Two matches, two very different clues
Imagine one person with 800 likes who suggests coffee on Saturday and follows through. Another has 20 likes but always answers a proposed date with “we should do that sometime.” Which one has actually made space for you?
A cancelled date can be ordinary life getting in the way. The useful detail is what follows: do they suggest another day, ask about your schedule and help make the plan happen?
A like costs a tap. Planning and showing up cost time. That difference is something you can observe without guessing anyone’s personality.
Eight hundred likes are people knocking at the door. The interesting part is whether this person opens it and makes time for you. Count the taps if you like; judge the connection by what you actually do together.
References
- with Help Center: received likes
- Pronk & Denissen (2020) study
- Apostolou et al. (2024) study
- with Help: how likes lead to a match
- with Help: when likes are granted and how points work
- Apostolou et al. (2024), full study (PMC)
- IBJ Match Lab (2025): Japanese dating-app like-count estimates
