I was watching the couple during their wedding ceremony. Beside me, a family member hummed a tune, spoke before the next moment even happened, then went from being loud to crying with emotion. On my other side, a child was shouting.
The main characters were in front. The main voices were on both sides.
Please, just don't talk to me right now.
Not answering didn't make it disappear
I mostly kept quiet and watched. There was no argument, and I did see the ceremony.
But each interruption made me decide whether to answer. If I did, I'd look like another guest chatting through the ceremony. Some conversations weren't ones I wanted everyone nearby to hear.
I kept letting the words pass and looking back at the couple. Noise is tiring enough; this noise came with a reply button.
“Nobody else is listening” didn't solve it. I didn't want to have that conversation there, then.
Commentary, soundtrack, trailer, tears
A tune came to mind: sing it. Something was about to happen: announce it. A thought appeared: say it. A moving moment: cry.
One seat contained the commentary, background music, trailer and reaction video.
The child's shouting was distracting too. But what I can expect from a child and from an adult choosing to hum or chat aren't quite the same. With the adult, I also thought: couldn't this wait?
I liked the ceremony. That's why I wanted to watch
I was glad I went. The food, atmosphere, couple and family moments stayed with me. I watched closely enough to have a spectator's preference about the ceremonial kiss: it was on the cheek, though I'd have preferred seeing a kiss on the lips.
I wanted to take the ceremony in quietly. Even nearby sniffling and rustling tissues started bothering me. Then relatives discussed travel-money arrangements during the ceremony. Really, now?
There's nothing wrong with settling transport money. There were other times to discuss it, before or after the ceremony.
Be moved. Cry. Just save the conversation for later.
I came for a wedding, not the next seat's director's cut with live commentary.
